Unfortunately, I was born into privilege at every facet. I’m white, I’m a male, and I’m CIS! I really tried to self-identify as a Pansexual African Foxkin, but it just didn’t feel genuine. My wife and children wouldn’t talk to me and it just didn’t feel right. I had to face the fact that I shall roam this earth as a symbol of oppression in just about every conceivable way.
I do everything I can to rectify my existence in society for these so called gifts. I spend countless hours on conservative forums and facebook pages spreading the message of social justice. When I encounter a PoC in public, I appear as non-threatening and submissive as possible. I tell my children to never take pride in their existence as young seedlings of oppression. I do what I can.
It will never be enough
If you sit on the throne of privilege, you will always be a racist, or homophobic, or sexist.
Derald Wing Sue & David Sue wrote in their book Counseling the Culturally Diverse: Theory and Practice, “First, it is clear that most Whites perceive themselves as unbiased individuals who do not harbor racist thoughts and feelings; they see themselves as working toward social justice and possessing a conscious desire to better the life circumstances of those less fortunate than they. Although these are admirable qualities, this self-image serves as a major barrier to recognizing and taking responsibility for admitting and dealing with one’s own prejudices and biases. To admit to being racist, sexist, or homophobic requires people to recognize that the self-images they hold so dear are based on false notions of the self.”
In other words, there is no escape from being a racist, homophobic or sexist. You can think you’re not any of those things and you can parade around like I do, attempting to instill meaningful change in this world. But make no mistake about it, you are still a racist, sexist and homophobic symbol in the eyes of society — in the eyes of reality.
Accept the consequences
The best course of action is to simply admit our racist, homophobic and sexist tendencies. Once we can admit this, our place in society will finally be one of consistency and honesty. Should other genders, PoC and non-CIS individuals decide to take action against us for this bias, then we must accept whatever it is they throw our way. Condemnation, public shaming, and even violence.
We have deserved it.
Thank you, Anonymous